I have a sociology assignment due this week and I need your help! My paper is on how people have met their spouses. So tell me your story...even if you think I already know. And...What advise would you give to single people looking for their soul mate?
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Rob and I joke that we met at the CougarEat!! Not true, but it is where we became friends. We were in the same ward and knew of each other, talked a few times but that was it. Second semester a bunch of friends (Rob included) from the same ward had lunch together at the CougarEat. I told Rob about a guy in my French class (named Rob) that I was crushing on. I would go and meet the other Rob everyday after lunch and I wasn't shy about sharing my giddy feelings about this crush to my Rob. Well that crush fizzled and Rob and I started hanging out more and started "dating" two months after the semester started. And married that December.
Grant and I have known each other for almost 25 years. Our families moved into the same ward about the same time and became friends, I was 3 and Grant was 6. When I was 15 we danced at a stake dance. He was my brother's best friend so I saw and humg out with him a lot (I used to go snowboarding with them as the camera woman). Our first date was right after his mission. We tripled with my brother and his sister and his parents, not as awkward as one would think :) I felt that it went well, but it took him 2 years to call me again (perhaps he was just waiting for me to get out of high school?). Once he did call again, we saw each other every night and after 7 months we were married.
My advice would be to not dismiss people you've known most of your life or your favorite brother's best friend :)
Chris and I met in High School while he was dating a friend of mine. We went on quite a few double dates. When they broke up, he called her and asked for my number. He's smooth like that. We dated for a few months, and then when I was out of town, that same ex/friend of mine told him that I was dating someone else. I had no idea, I just knew that he had stopped calling. That was the end of that until after his mission when he showed up on my doorstep at 10 o'clock at night after all those years. After I wrote a dear John letter (to a guy who is STILL a friend of mine) and 9 months later we were married.
Don't be picky. Don't have something already figured out in your head that you think you want. You will find that there are so many great qualities in people that you may have dismissed because you "thought" you knew what you wanted.
Steve and I met playing volleyball at BYU. We were in the same class and occasionally got on the same team. He came into my work (an ice cream shop) one day and we got to talking. We both knew right away that this was something worth going for. The rest, as they say, is history. We were married 7 months after our first date.
My advice would be to keep your eyes open to those around you. Also, the thing that was most refreshing about our relationship was our honesty and open communication with each other. It was easy to be myself around him. And don't be afraid to make the first move. I held Steve's hand first and made him work for that first kiss!
Brad and I met at the singles ward in Gresham, OR. Brad came late to a Christmas FHE activity I didn't even want to go to. (Luckily, Wes Donkin convinced me I wanted to go.) Bryce Busenbark and I were joking around after the activity and Brad stepped into the room and a bunch of people went to talk to him, so I looked up to see who it was, and I noticed that he dressed well and wasn't wanting for friends. I also noticed that he was the guy that had given the long rambling talk in church the week before. :) He came over to where Bryce and I were and Bryce introduced us. After the activity, a bunch of us went to a movie, and Brad and I ended up sitting next to each other (but not by mistake) and the movie was: Beavis and Butthead Do America. Yeah...sweet. The funny thing about this completely normal meeting is this: Brad and I had attended the Gresham singles ward for a whole summer together, and I had been back for other holidays, and had never seen him before. He was friends with many of my friends, he had went to the same youth dances I did years earlier, we were at Ricks at the same time...in fact, we lived only a couple of blocks away, he rode by my house almost daily, he swam at the health club across the street from my house, he knew some of the same people I did, and we had never met before, ever! The Lord definitely has a plan for each of us. When two people run in the same social circles, live next to each other, and have had many opportunities to meet but never have---to me that is more than just coincidence.
David and I met, first, at the MTC as missionaries. We crossed paths there as aquaintances, but never really made a friendship past that...and completely forgot about each other. After both of our missions, we "coincidentally" ended up in the same student ward. I was convinced that I recognized him from somewhere, and couldn't get it out of my head until I figured it out--but no interest beyond that--he was younger than me, after all! I approached him first so I could figure out how we knew each other. He was smitten from that point on. I had no intentions about dating him...but after he kept coming around to visit, I started to realize I really thought he was a great guy, and had no doubt that he had the character that I was comfortable with for a spouse. I thought the ball was in my court, and took my time letting him "woo" me, until I found out that another girl was interested in him, too. That sealed the deal for me--no one was going to take this one from me! I was smitten! I stopped playing "hard to get" and we were married 6 months later. (:
My favorite thing about DAvid and me was that we worked so well together as a team. Our personalities complimented each other--we were different and the same...and our strengths and weaknesses brought out the best in the other. Where one lacked, the other was happy to serve with their strength. Rather than changing each other, we benefited from each other.
Advice: Find someone with whom you can work well as a team.
Scott and I just met on the street. Yep, you heard that right. I was standing on the sidewalk waiting for my ride to pick me up and he was walking past. He just stopped and talked to me for a little bit and then my ride showed up. I thought he was so cute...but I wasn't about to ask for his number or anything (after all, I was only two weeks home from my mission). What are the odds...we ended up in the same BYU ward! We knew it was meant to be!
Advice: Sometimes people get hung up and finding a "soul mate" and I think that sometimes they get caught up in looking for the perfect person. There is no perfect person. Find someone who you see potential in. Find someone who may not be perfect right now, but they try hard to do what they should. Find someone that realizes that you aren't perfect, but that makes you do your best everyday. Look for someone that can make you laugh during this crazy life!!
CJ and I met when I was living with my cousin and her friend in Colorado. He had known both of them for a long time (even dated my cousin) and came to visit for a birthday of another one of their friends. We talked and flirted a little that night but that was it. I do remember that before he left he gave me a hug and it felt so comfortable, like we had known each other for a long time. He lived 100 miles away so he was only able to come to town and visit once a month. We talked and flirted each time he came. My cousin and her friend asked if they could set us up but I told them no because I believed that if he was really interested in me then he would make the first move and ask me out. He never did, so I gave them permission to set us up. On his next visit, before they could set us up, he and I started holding hands and just kind of decided that we wanted to date without either one of us saying a word. During later visits we talked and found out that our paths had crossed many times before but we never really noticed each other until that night he came for the birthday. We dated long distance for 6 months before we were married.
Scott and I met our second year of college (Ricks). We were in the same ward and same FHE group. We found out that we had the same history class and decided to study together. We would meet at the library or at my apartment. My roommates would drop him hints to ask me out but he ignored them. After two months of "hanging out" I decided to ask him out to a Girls choice dance at the end of October. We had a good time and it just felt natural to be with him. I don't know exactly when we "fell in love" because we spent almost every day together and it just gradually crept up on me. Just one day, I realized I didn't want to live without him. Scott came to Orem to spend a week with my family during the holidays and New Year's EVe he proposed and I accepted and we were married the end of May. I don't think there is such thing as a "soulmate" I think that if you are doing the things you should be doing most anybody can make a marriage work. But you do have to work at it and nourish it.
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