Monday, February 20, 2012

Losing It....Week 26

I just realized 26 weeks marks the 6 month point.

Okay, so today I'll be reporting a gain. My first gain in 6 months. But it's OKAY because I totally deserved to gain and I expected it. It's no worries. I am excited to get back on track and work hard.

Results:
+2 lbs.

The next two weeks will be much better!

I had Ken take a picture of me on my 37th birthday similar to the one he took on my 36th birthday. Want to see the difference?
I thought you would....


The top pictures were taken on my 36th birthday, 2 weeks after having Aftyn, but remember I gained about 20 lbs. after that.
The bottom pictures were taken on my 37th birthday. I thought I was wearing the same outfit, but on second look I can see the pants are not the same. But they are the same size pants in both pictures. And as you can see they are WAY TOO BIG.
Yay!

Next weigh-in I want to be down 4 lbs. That would put me very close to the 180's. Pretty cool.



Sunday, February 19, 2012

Getting Older

I remember the day my husband turned 37, I teased him that he was on a slippery slide to 40.
40 is big and scary.
But every year (well, every day really) it keeps getting closer and closer.
I know its inevitable so I've made a new goal to embrace it.
Laugh if you will, but I am serious!
I'm starting a new personal campaign...just for me.
"Fab by 40"
Yes, that's right. I plan to be absolutely fabulous by the time I reach the big 4-0.
It's only 3 years away, I better get crackin', but I can do it!
Here are a few things I want to accomplish...

* I want to be better at saying "Thank you" and "Thinking of You" in general. Sending cards has always been one of those things I wish I was good at, unfortunately, I am pretty much a complete failure at the follow through of that desire. By 40 I will be better at expressing my gratitude for the people who bless my life.

* By 40 I want to find perfect balance. I know that sounds kind-of silly because life is always changing, but I want to find that right balance of spiritual, emotional and physical wellness. I guess what I really want is to establish the perfect roadmap to meet all the needs and expectations of myself and those around me without running faster than I have strength or missing the mark because I didn't have my act together.

* By 40 I want to meet all my physical goals. I want to be healthy. I want to feel confident. I want to enjoy the freedom that comes with mastering self discipline.

* By 40 want to LOVE more and JUDGE less. I want to be more patient & compassionate. I want to look at others and see the GOOD, even if the BAD is more obvious.

* I want to be very close to reaching my educational goals. By 40 I want be very close to having my bachelors degree in Behavior Science-family studies.

* I want my kids to think they have the bestest, coolest, mom ever. Not because I am always a nice mom, or that they always get what they want, but because they know that mom makes them do hard things because I believe in them, I want the best for them, and because I love them. I want to be that kind of example to them. I want them to be able to say....Mom can do hard things....and so can I.

Those are just a few things that have been on my mind lately.
Every day I want to be better than the day before. I have a lot of work to do. Thankfully, I know that weaks things can be made strong. That's my goal!
FAB BY 40, BABY!!!  

Man, I sure am long winded...this was meant to be a really short birthday post and I haven't even got to the birthday part yet.
Well, here it is...
I had a Birthday! Yay for me!
I'm sure you all caught on to that a while back...
anyways,
Here are a few pics from my 37th birthday.


Ken surprised me by inviting our good friends, Paul and Tish, over to play games. Hanging out with our friends is one of my favorite things to do. It just made my day!
So did the thoughtfulness of other good friends, family, Ken, and the kids.
I felt loved!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, TO ME!
This is going to be a good year!

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Do You Speak Your Spouses LOVE Language?

Are you familiar with the book, The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman?
It's a pretty good book.
In it he points out that there are five primary love languages, which are:

Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service 
Physical Touch 

Chapman explains that each of us have a primary and secondary love language and we typically show love in the way we like to receive it. That can be a big problem if your spouse speaks a different love language than your own.
My Marriage and Family Relations teacher explained it something like this...Speaking the wrong kind of love language is like sending a package to the wrong address. It never reaches it's desired destination and therefore has little or no affect on the intended recipient.

I read this book years ago and found it very helpful to understand my own love language as well as Ken's love language. When I finally realized the way we both individually feel love and in return show love it made understanding each other so much easier. My primary love language is acts of service, and my second is quality time. Ken's primary love language is more physical touch and words of affirmation. You can imagine how badly we would miss the mark if we only spoke our own language instead of learning the language of our spouse.

I am inclined to DO things for Ken to show my love, but what he really needs sometimes is just a hug and an encouraging word. Ken is inclined to show affection when what I really need sometimes is for him to just DO something to lighten my load. We both try and look past our own love language and instead speak the language of our partner. For me personally, I know I try and speak Ken's language but my love language is generously applied as well, because that's who I am. I just have to know that he may not get as much out of those things as I get out of doing them.  If anything, it at least helps explain why our spouses sometimes do the things they do or think the way they think. Life becomes a ton more simple and enjoyable when you understand this concept. It's HUGE, really. 

If I were really cool I would add a link to the quiz you can take to find out what your love language is, unfortunately I'm not that cool. Still, I encourage you to find it or read the book. It's worth it.

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!

I'm Trying Really Hard to Keep Myself Off The Crappy Mommy List

Have you ever watched parents who have older and younger children? Have you ever noticed how some parents seem to be so much more LAZY with their younger children then they were when their older children were young?
I have...and I swore I would never be one of those parents. I never wanted to be a lazy parent who didn't put in as much effort with my younger children as I once had.

Well guess what...it's happened.

But! Now that I'm here I understand a little better.
It's taken some time to convince myself, because mommy guilt is a powerful force, but I am NOT lazy. Never have been!
I do not sit around eating bon-bons and watching soap operas all day (gag me, please).

True my younger ones don't get all the bells and whistles that my older kids got at that age.

True I did send #5 & 6 to preschool not knowing their ABC's. It's true, shocking I know. I would have been in hysterics wondering how I had failed so miserably as a parent if #1 didn't meet and exceed every developmental milestone. But I've come to realize it just doesn't matter.
Sort of...
I mean really it doesn't matter, but I still let things like that bother me.
I feel guilty because I'm not as involved as I once was. There is only so much of me to go around. I am spread pretty darn thin, and still some days it just doesn't cover EVERYTHING.
I feel guilty because I LOATHE filling out my kids reading calendars. Six different papers, charts, and what-not everyday drives me crazy!
I have a mental block when it comes to school papers and again I feel GUILTY.
My brain can only hold so much information and having 5 kids in elementary school and 1 in Junior High gives me system OVERLOAD.
So I deal with it by ignoring as much as I can.
I know that sounds terrible, but it's SURVIVAL.

Here was my latest dilemma...
CLASS VALENTINE'S....

Between my 5 elementary age students I needed to provide 123 valentines for their fellow classmates.
I was seriously sweating this because I didn't have the money to go buy 6 boxes of valentine goodies. I would rather spend that money on my own little family of valentines.  But can you imagine being the one kid in your class that did not bring a valentine to share with their buddies.
Ultimate humiliation.
That would have put me on the crappy mommy list for sure.
 I had no choice but to figure out a cheap way to make my kids happy, and stay off that list.
I ended up bypassing all of the cutesie Valentine's Day packaged candy and going right for the cheapest bulk candy bag I could find. I ended up spending $4.00 on smarties rather than $16.00 on traditional valentine favors.
Did I feel guilty? YES, I did for a moment. But only for a moment, because even though I did not spend tons of money, nor did I spend several evenings making sure that every child had there classmates name written on their cards. It DIDN'T matter. My kids were happy, it was cheap and easy, and it's all okay.

I don't know if anyone else can relate too trying to live up to what you USED to be able to do. I hope I'm not the only one that feels this way. But DUH, hello! I didn't use to have 8 kids! Not that it matters how many kids you have, ANY number is challenging at times. I do WAY more now than I did when my older kids were young, it only seems like less because it's spread out a lot more.

It's all good.
My kids are surviving.
And I am trying my hardest to do the things that really matter and not sweat the small stuff.
Cause really...if it won't matter years from now then it's not worth worrying about today.
Sometimes less is more. Sometimes.


Sunday, February 12, 2012

Nancy: This One Is For You

The Nancy I am referring to is not myself, I am referring to my mother-in-law who also happens share the same as my own.  I don't actually call her Nancy, I call her Mom, but since I call more than one woman by the name of mom for the sake of clarity when I say mom you'll know I mean Nancy, as in my mother-in-law, Nancy Roberts. Wow...that was a really long run on sentence.
Anyways...
Ken told me yesterday that while I was at school his mother called feeling down and needing a little encouragement. While talking to Ken I was reminded of a blog I read when I was also feeling discouraged, weak, and unsure if I was up for the challenges of life that lay ahead of me.

Mom, I was thinking of you and wanted to share this post with you. The following are not my words, but used with permission from Sunshine Promises -a gifted blogger, who uses her talent and life experiences to express the feelings of a tender mothers heart. You can visit her blog and read the entire post HERE.

The story is as follows...

 During the Mormon Migration, many companies of Pioneers made the long and arduous trek from the Midwest to Utah. Many of those Saints started the journey after leaving everything they owned in foreign lands and making the long and expensive journey to the United States. The end result? Too many started the journey destitute and had to travel in "less than desirable" conditions. Many of those immigrants came by handcart.

 One of the handcart companies was the Willie and Martin Handcart company. Quite recently, their story was beautifully depicted in the movie "17 Miracles." Many stories could be told of their faith, testimony, heartache and sacrifice but - for this post - this one will have to suffice.

 After surviving starvation, exhaustion, bone chilling conditions and being overshadowed by the Spirit of Death, a young girl found herself among the survivors when the rescuers came from the Salt Lake Valley. Her hopes, however, were soon squelched when it was announced that the younger folk would still be asked to walk the remainder of the trek to allow for room in the wagons for the older and more feeble Saints. After hearing this, the girl and a friend made the decision to try and keep up with the wagons just in case there became room available onboard. They did so and - sure enough - they were soon asked by a man if they wanted to get on the wagon.

 So, at this point, can you imagine what they were feeling? Relief, Gratitude, Hope that this nightmare would all be over. Right? That's what one would rightfully assume. Well . . .

 As the Driver reached down for the girls, he asked them to hold on to the wagon. At that same moment, he signaled to his horses to speed up. Soon, the girls found themselves sprinting alongside the wagon, trying to run fast enough to not get trampled. In that instant, the girl thought to herself, "This is CERTAINLY the meanest man in the world! How COULD he do this to us after all we've been through!"

 And then the teaching moment.

 When she thought she couldn't go a step more, the gentleman stopped the wagon, pulled the girls onboard and continued on to the Salt Lake Valley. The Method to his Madness? The girls were nearly frozen to death and he knew that - in order to survive the voyage onboard - they would need to warm up their bodies through a brisk run. In essence, what appeared to be torture was the very thing that saved their lives.

 How many of us have experienced this? We find ourselves in difficult circumstances that demand us to run faster than we have strength. We are exhausted, heartbroken, and wonder if a God in Heaven is even aware of our plight.

 And then the wagon speeds up.

 We start sprinting and taking deeper strides than we thought we were capable. Our lungs are burning, feeling ready to burst, and hot tears are spilling down our cheeks as we feel our bodies begin to shut down.

 And then the wagon slows.

 We are hypothetically pulled into the Lord's wagon. Is the voyage over? No. But a Loving Father in Heaven knows we have reached our breaking point. There IS relief. And He is our Driver.

 When time, experience and perspective give us the hindsight that only God can give, we believe that it will be moments such as this that WILL in fact save us. For it is IN these moments that we have learned the strength we can have through God. That with Him, nothing IS impossible and that our faith can in fact withstand even the darkest of times.

And that - in the end - we are saved by the Wagon Sprint.

Mom, I love you. I know you can do anything the Lord calls you to do. He will strengthen and bless you. We are proud of you and dad for your willingness to serve Him. You will be in our prayers. I have no doubt that you are equal to this task. I also have know doubt that it will be a blessing in your life, and the lives of your children & grand-children, even more than you can imagine. We love you! 
Love, The Other Nancy 

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Roberts Update

Just wanted to keep you up to date on all the fascinating details of our exciting lives.
Okay, not really fascinating, but I do have some exciting news....
DARIC IS NOW POTTY TRAINED!!!
That leaves only one left in diapers.
Do you know what that means?
It means...I'm bound to get pregnant soon. JUST KIDDING. That was a joke.
What it really means is within the next year or two I will be done with my nearly 14 year continuous diaper changing streak.
What will that be like?
Much less expensive I'm sure...Oh, just kidding about that too, they only get more expensive as they get older.
Check out my super-hero BIG BOY in his super undies.

On to other exciting news...
Kaylie has been chosen once again to go to the district science fair.
Way to go Kaylie!
With Ken home more now he was able to help Kaylie with her project this year. That is WAY exciting for me!


On to other exciting news...
Presents...I love presents.
My friend Margaret made us girls these darling hats and scarves and bought the boys these fun BYU hats. I can't wait to take the girls out in the fresh snow (if we get anymore) and take winter pictures of them. I think they are ADORABLE.
Thanks, Margaret!!!

Here's one more totally random picture just for fun.


Oh, who am I kidding...
Here's a couple more.



Now I'm done.
The End
  

Monday, February 6, 2012

Losing It....Week 24

Let's not waste time with chit-chat...let's get to it....

Results:
-5 lbs.

Ye-Haw!
Stats:
Current weight: 194 lbs.
Total weight loss: 41 lbs.

I even own 2 size 12 skirts. I don't feel like I'm really a size 12, but I did get lucky enough to find 2 that fit. Yay! That feels good.

This week we had 2 birthdays and all the goodies that go with them. Before next weigh-in there will be another, MINE. I know I'll have to kick up the exercise to make up the difference. Right now my thing is walking/running 3 miles on the treadmill each morning. Well...technically I have only done that twice, but it's my new plan. First time was Friday...halfway through my workout I decided to go 3 miles, it took me 44.54 minutes. This morning I did 3 miles in 40.58 minutes. My goal is to keep trying to shorten my time. I would be really happy with a 35 minute 5k. It's kind of funny that I was so proud of myself for running a mile at 4.0 mph. Now 4.0 is walking not jogging. I walk at 4.3, it's fun to see improvement. Soon I would like to see 5.5 feel like a comfortable jog. I'll get there, and then I'll set a new goal.

As for writing my food down, that lasted all of about a day and a half. My intentions were good. I planned on doing it faithfully, but after the first day it wasn't working for me. All I did was think about food...ALL DAY LONG. It did make me think about what I was eating the only problem was it made me want to always be eating. Weird, I know. It's not supposed to work like that. For now I'm not doing it, maybe sometime, but not now. Not for me. 

My next weigh-in goal is -2 lbs.
Wish me luck!